A few days ago I was casually lurking on twitter, when something caught my eye. It was a tweet about how you should try to be different from others, instead of being mainstream. Now, I do agree with the fact that you should be yourself no matter what, but what if being yourself means being mainstream? So that's why I decided to write this post.
In the past couple of years we've seen phrases like "Dare to be different" and "Be original, don't die a copy", and being different is being highly encouraged. Nothing is wrong with that at all. I like people who are a little different. But I also know that people are being made fun of for liking things that are trending. And that right there is not okay.
I think an excellent example is me buying a Mason jar two weeks ago. I showed it to someone and they said "You too? Everyone has those. It's not so special anymore." Well first of all, I'm not buying something because it's special. I buy something because I like it. Second, so what if everyone has them? They're not being mass-produced just for 5 people to own them. Why is everyone obsessed with being original? If you like something, buy it. It doesn't matter if it's something everyone owns or wears. It doesn't matter if people find it plain or boring. If you like it, get it.
Another example is people saying something you do or make isn't original. Now, I do not support people who steal other people's works or ideas, but it's impossible to make something that doesn't at least have one similarity with someone else's work. If lineart is popular right now, and you want to do lineart too, go for it! It doesn't matter if everyone is doing it. If you like it, go for it. It's really that simple.
I also feel like a lot of people try too hard to stand out. It's okay if your clothing style is strange, but only wear those clothes because you like them and because you want to. Not because you want to stand out.
I think that the hardest thing is to be yourself. Personally, it took me a long time to figure out who I am and what I want. But I did know that I wasn't "mainstream". But sometimes I do, buy, and like "mainstream" things, and that's okay. So if you like everything that's popular and trending, then there's no shame in that. It's great to praise those who are different, but it's not good to do so by insulting those who are normal. After all, what even is normal? I don't think there is a good definition for that. As long as you are yourself it's all good. Just keep that in mind.