I've never been a good sleeper. Even as a young child I struggled falling asleep. Until this day I can't take naps and I can only sleep when lying down. And even then I struggle. For me this is caused by my autism, which caused a melatonin deficiency. Melatonin is the substance your body produces when you're going to bed. It tells your brain you're going to sleep. My body doesn't produce enough of it, so when I don't take my melatonin pills it takes me up to two hours to fall asleep. Even with the medication it often takes an hour, and I've had countless of sleepless nights. But I learned a lot from those nights, and I want to tell you what I've learned.
1. Don't look at your phone
Now, I'm not gonna tell you not to use your phone an hour before you go to bed, because most people do this anyway. What I mean by this is that if you can't seem to fall asleep you shouldn't look at your phone again. By doing this you expose your eyes to light, which will only wake you up more. Also, if you're going to tweet or message people, your brain goes from its resting state to having to do things that require focus. So once again you're activating yourself more. So if you can't fall asleep, don't look at your phone.
2. Don't look at the time
This trick I learned from my parents. Often when you can't sleep during the week, you're gonna look at the time and think "Oh crap, I have to get up in 5 hours!". If you do this you're gonna stress yourself out, and what happens when you're stressed? Right, you're more alert. So turn your alarm clock the other way so you can't look at it. Just try not to think about the time.
3. Get up briefly
If you've been in bed for an hour and stil feel wide awake, get up for a minute. Go to the toilet (only use minimal lighting in the bathroom), drink a bit of water, go watch the stars briefly, and lie back down. I've found that after I've gotten up I fall asleep not long after. I'm not sure why, but I think it kind of pulls you out of that "I gotta sleep I gotta sleep I gotta sleep" mindset and sort of resets it for you. Kind of like a second attempt. A fresh start.
4. Exhaust your mind
Apart from a melatonin deficiency, I also have ADHD. This causes my mind to be extremely active all the time and sometimes my body as well. Often I can't sleep because my head is so full and active. My thoughts go rapidly and I can't seem to clear my head. So over the years I developed techniques to exhaust my mind a little. The one I used most when I was younger was to read (with dim lights). By reading I had to focus on something. Eventually I would quit when I found that I could barely focus on the words anymore. After that I usually fell asleep within half an hour.
The second trick, and my most used one to date, is to count backwards from 100 while lying in bed. When doing this you ask your mind to focus on the counting. I do this slowly and usually the beginning is easy. It's when I get to 40 that I really have to try very hard to focus. I always make sure to make it to 0. If it went really easily I repeat it as much as necessary. Usually this calms my mind and I fall asleep about twenty minutes later. I think the most important part here is to find something to focus on. Sometimes I make myself focus on my breathing. You just need to distract your mind from your thoughts.
5. Check your breathing
I just said that sometimes I focus on my breathing as a distraction, but what I'm actually doing it applying meditation techniques. This helps you relax. Breathe through your stomach (so to say, just make sure your stomach rises and falls and not your chest) and focus on that. Focus purely on breathing calmly. If you can't sleep because you're stressed about something, this will help you feel more relaxed. But in any case it's a good thing to do.
Do you have any tips? Comment them below!
Guess who's back? Well.. Guess who has been back for about a month but was too lazy to write a blogpost until now? That's right, me. I went on holiday to Moscow with my younger brother and had a great time! And based on my experiences I will give you some things to keep in mind when travelling to Moscow (or any other big city).
1. The language barrier
Before we went to Moscow I already was informed that not many people spoke English in Russia. I was expecting to have to keep things simple in terms of communication, but what I was not expecting was that most people did not speak one single word of English. This made things quite difficult. However, I did come prepared. I downloaded an offline Russian dictionary app and I downloaded the Russian dictionary on the Google Translate app. Especially the latter is great because not only does it allow you to translate offline (since we didn't have wifi in most places and data was too expensive), it also allows you to use the camera function to live translate signs and other written things. This helped us on a few occasions. So if you go to another country with a foreign language I definitely recommend doing this.
2. Finding your way
There is one app that saved our asses during this trip: citymapper. Citymapper is an app that allows you to get around in a city of your choice (it goes by location). It works on wifi but what I did was to save all possible trips for offline use when at the hotel. The evening beforehand my brother and I would pick out three things we would be visiting the next day and I would map out the entire route and save all public transport trips in the offline mode of citymapper. Even when offline it tracks your location so that when you have to walk from a busstation to the actual address it can give you the route and tell you where to go. It shoes the possible public transport options as well as the duration of the trip. At one point I found that it also gave me reminders like "get off at the next stop". I definitely recommend that app for travelling anywhere.
In Russia they use Russian roubles. Now if you're used to a currency like Euros, Dollars or Pounds, you'll very quickly find that everything is super cheap. We managed to do groceries for around €12 which here would've cost us at least €20 if not more. However, it's easy to get lost in this and end up spending way more than planned. So I advice you to beforehand calculate how many roubles is one Euro/Dollar/Pound/whatever it is you use. You can check the currencies online. By doing this you can quickly calculate how much something approximately costs before buying it. I also advice paying with cash. Not that my card didn't work, but it helps you keep better track of how much you've spent. And only get cash at actual banks, not random ATMs on the street. This goes for any country, honestly.
4. Watch your stuff
I always take a small backpack with me when travelling because I always carry things like a water bottle, food and a power bank. However, I keep my valuables close to me. In Moscow I kept things like my phone, debit card, cash, passport and hotel keys in a small travel bag that was hanging around my neck. This way it'll be very hard to steal. Also a side tip for the photographers out there: buy a camera holster. It saves a lot of neck pain.
5. Enjoy the city!
Going to Moscow or any big city can be stressful because you don't know the way, the language or how dangerous it can be. I have to admit, the first day I'm always a bit nervous because of these things. But after that I completely relax and just have fun. So try to let go of your worries and just have fun! Also try some of the local food and buy a cheesy souvenir. There's nothing wrong with being a typical tourist.
I also made a vlog documenting my trip, which you can watch below!
I like learning languages. I'm not saying I'm good at it, or that it's something I spend loads of time on, but from time to time I like to sit down and learn new words in a foreign language. Unfortunately, I can't afford (or sometimes even find) a teacher, so I have to do it myself. This post will give you an overview of tools you can use to learn a language. I used Chinese as an example because that's what I'm focused on right now, but you can apply it for any language.
Most people know Duolingo. I have used Duolingo in the past, but I found that I didn't learn the things I wanted to learn and that it also often didn't offer the languages I was looking for. So I found Memrise. It's very similar to Duolingo but it offers way more courses. It even has a course for sign language! It has a website as well as an app, so you can use it on multiple platforms.
For Chinese, I found a handy offline dictionary that I used a lot when I was in China. It has an Chinese to English and English to Chinese function. When I needed something and didn't know the Chinese word, I just typed it in and showed it to the other person. Apart from using an (offline) dictionary for travelling, you can also use it to look up words for your study. I think every language has a dictionary app. It's a very good idea to add one of your target language. I also use it to translate words I come across so I can learn them. For those learning Chinese, this app is called Pleco.
Tumblr is actually a really good source for language knowledge. I simply typed in "learn Chinese" and I found hundreds of posts with lists of words and their translations, as well as grammar lessons from people who are fluent in Chinese. Sometimes there are even blogs dedicated to a language.
HiNative is an app where you can ask questions about a language to natives and other learners. Simply add your target language and ask a question. Usually you get an answer within an hour. You can also do voice questions, asking for opinions about your pronunciation. Other than that, you can also answer questions from people learning a language you're fluent in. It's kind of a community forum and it's very helpful!
5. Popular media
A very important one is to listen to songs in your target language and watch films and series that are in that language. By listening you can pick up a lot of things, especially, if you have lyrics or subtitles on hand so you can connect words you hear to their meaning. What I do for Chinese is to watch live streams in an app called UpLive. Live streaming is very big in China and some people are making a living with it. I usually just watch the live streamers and try to pick up words. Right now I don't understand 95% of what they're saying but I did learn a few new words just by watching live streams for like 4 hours. Also the chat box in the app helps me learn Chinese characters.
This is a website made for making friends to learn languages with and write letters to. I have made a couple friends here, one of which I ended up meeting in real life! You can make a profile and add which languages you know and which ones you want to learn. You can search for people by things like age, gender, country and language. If you find someone who you want to connect with you can send them a message. Having native speakers to turn to when you have questions is very helpful, so if you don't know any native speakers, this site can help! I do have to add a warning to this, though. I usually search for females (or at least people who are not male) because 8/10 males that come into my inbox are just looking for a relationship. There are exceptions, as I have made some male friends too. Luckily you can add a setting where you can filter who can message you. But don't let it stop you, because this website has a lot to offer.
Do you have any platforms to add? Let me know in the comments!
Lately I've been having some setbacks. I'm not gonna lie, it really sucks. But it inspired me to write this blogpost, because over the years I've learned to deal with failure. Doesn't mean it doesn't affect me anymore, but it doesn't hurt me as much as it used to. So here are my tips on how to deal with failure.
1. Is it failure?
The first thing you need to realise is that failure isn't always bad. To most people failure means that they wanted to do something and didn't succeed. But is there really only one way to do something? For example, when I first started making jewellery I "failed" a lot of times. I used the wrong materials, I attached things the wrong way, I used the wrong colour combinations, etc. You can see of this as a maze. Sometimes you gotta run into five dead ends before you find the exit. So is your failure really failure, or just one step closer to success?
2. Accept it
Failing is normal. Everyone fails from time to time. Sometimes it's our own fault, sometimes it's because of external causes. Whatever it is, you need to accept that you failed. This does not mean you should give up. I'll give another example. As some may know, I have autism and ADHD. This causes a lot of trouble for me when it comes to things like school and sometimes work as well. If I got a euro for every time I failed an exam because I misunderstood the questions, I'd be rich. But I know this is how I work. I know that this is my handicap, and I know I can't change it. So I accept it. When I do schoolwork, I keep in mind that I may not succeed the first time. This has given me a lot of peace and takes away some pressure. So my tip is to accept it. Maybe even keep the possibility of failure in mind. Don't count on it, of course, but prepare yourself for what may happen if you fail. Make a plan. I have done that the past two months because I am writing my graduation report. I knew that it would be difficult for me so I kept in mind that I might not graduate in July like the rest, but that I might graduate in October. And guess what? It happened. I failed my plan of action and am now planning on graduating in October. Am I bummed out? A little. But am I upset about it? No. Not at all. Because I already knew there was a chance that this would happen.
3. Use it
I always say that I don't learn unless I fail. I learn from my mistakes the most, because I'm stubborn and won't change until I learn the hard way that something isn't working. If you fail, there's always a lesson to learn. Analyse what went wrong and use that to make sure you won't make the same mistake again. I did that when learning to make jewellery. I did it when my very first online store failed. Failure always comes with a lesson. Don't ignore that lesson. Look back at your failure and think "this didn't work, so at least I now know what not to do". Then use it to make a new plan. Also ask feedback. I always ask my teachers for feedback on failed exams and reports. It will give you insight in what went wrong and maybe you'll discover that what you thought was right all along, is actually wrong. You can use this for future things as well. Asking feedback is very valuable.
4. Don't compare
Taking the autism example again, I've learned not to compare myself to others. I know I'm a slow learner, I know I need extra time to complete tasks. Yeah, that really sucks and I wish it was different, but I can't change it. So I need to be kind to myself. I'm doing the best I can, and that's what matters. You should do the same. Why compare yourself with the smartest kid in the classroom? It's not fair to do so. You're you. If you need to compare yourself with someone, compare yourself with you. Look at how you've done things in the past. Has something changed? If yes, maybe you can work on that. If not, maybe you just had bad luck. There's not always a reason behind failure. Don't beat yourself up over it. I always tell myself something along the lines of "Yes, you failed. And it really freaking sucks and you have the right to be upset. But you did your best. And now you're gonna prove everyone that you can succeed".
5. Accept defeat
This last step is meant for those who have failed a billion times with the same thing. Like I said, failing does not mean giving up, but sometimes you have to acknowledge that maybe something isn't for you. I know people who went to University and tried so very hard to make it work but kept failing. Their mental health went downhill as did their confidence. Eventually they quit and did something more on their level instead. They became happier and more confident. Of course you should try and do the best you can, but you have to accept that you have limits too. I mean, you can try and teach a penguin to fly, but if it's just not in its nature to fly, it's only gonna get frustrated with itself. The same goes for humans. Sometimes failing over and over again is a sign that maybe the thing you're doing is not for you. And that doesn't mean you're not smart or qualified, it just means that you have to find a different way of doing it, or do something else that will bring you less stress. Even if that means you have to give up on something you really want. I'm all for fighting for what you want, but I'm also sensible enough to know when to quit. Your happiness and health should be the most important thing, and if the thing you want the most is making you cry yourself to sleep every night, then maybe you need to think about if it's a good idea to continue. Besides, you can always try again when you're more stable. I know people who ended up doing what they always wanted to years after a failed attempt, because they used those years in between to gather knowledge and experience. Sometimes quitting merely means taking a break. You can always try again later.
Do you have some tips to add? Let me know in the comments!
I love travelling. If I have time and money I always try to plan a city trip of some sorts. But when you're new to travelling it might seem a bit overwhelming just thinking about everything you gotta plan. So I've made a list of tips to make sure you'll have to worry a little less.
Booking a flight and hotel
When booking a flight and a hotel you're aiming for getting the best for the cheapest price. I've found that booking a flight through the website of the airline is cheaper than using a mediator site. This is because the site often includes a fee in the price for their services. Also, booking a couple months in advance will often get you cheaper tickets. And on top of that, certain days or periods of the year can be cheaper or more expensive than others. So when you book a couple months in advance you can easily compare the prices for each date and based on that you can book. If you have a job you'll then have plenty of time to request those days off.
When it comes to a hotel I usually search on booking.com. It's just easy to compare all the different hotels and their facilities. Keep in mind that you want the hotel to be somewhat in the city center, or at least near public transport. So check the location of the hotel first. Personally I've never used an airbnb, purely because I don't want to worry about whether or not the place I'm gonna stay is any good or not. I always book a hotel with the thought in mind that I'm there to sleep and to relax. So I don't need many facilities and fancy things. As long as I can rest there and shower I'll be happy (and of course I'd like it to be clean).
Preparations before travelling
A few things you should always check when travelling somewhere is whether or not you need a visa and if you need any vaccinations. And if you're like me and using medication, you should check if you need a special form for that too. Another thing you should do is look up some words and sentences in the language of the country you're going to. Before I went to China I downloaded an offline dictionary app. It proved very useful when I needed to ask things like "where's the toilet?" because I would just type in the word "toilet" and show the other person the translated word. I know that in a lot of European capitals people generally speak English quite well, but that's not always the case, so you should do some research on that.
Another thing that's worth researching is travel. How are you gonna get from the airport to the hotel? Often airports are quite far away from the city center, so you need to travel to the city. You could of course get a taxi, but as someone who travels alone a lot I prefer not to use a taxi because of the risks that it's a fraudulent one. Instead I research on how to get to the hotel by public transport. The Google Maps app is quite useful for this and I often take screenshots of multiple routes. I also always put the address and phone number of my hotel in my phone (if needed, in the language of the country and in English), that way you can show it to someone if you get lost.
And lastly, before I go on a city trip I make a list of things I wanna see and do. I look up the addresses of the places I wanna go and put those in my phone. It saves you the struggle of having to look things up with possible shitty wifi, wasting time you could be spending on actually doing fun things.
On the day you're travelling you should try and be as relaxed as possible. Because you've made all the preparations you know where to go and what to do. When your flight has landed and you're on your way to the hotel, you need to keep a few things in mind.
First of all, watch your stuff. I always act as if everyone around me is a thief, ready to steal my stuff. It sounds silly, but actual thieves will recognise that you're a tourist and will take advantage of that. So be wary of your surroundings.
Second, don't go with strangers. Ever. If someone offers to take you somewhere, just tell them to give you directions. You can ask a stranger for help, but just don't go with them. Who knows where they might take you. Also while travelling, keep your friends or family updated on where you are. When I travelled through London at night I updated my family on where I was going. I sent texts like "I'm now at Luton Airport Parkway waiting for the train to West Hampstead." "I'm now on the underground to Uxbridge." By doing this, people will know where you are at what time. I've recently read something that said that it's better to give these updates not in real time, in case someone has hacked your phone or following your social media (in case you're posting updates there). It's pretty good advice which I will definitely follow from now on. I also have "find my iphone" turned on and "send last location" (this sends the location of my phone to Apple when the battery is low). I believe there are similar settings on Android phones.
When at the destination
When you've safely arrived at the hotel you can relax a bit. Pick one of the things of your "must see" list, use Google Maps to figure out how to get there, and have fun. Usually I pick things from my list the evening before and map out a travel route: how to get from thing A to B to C by using public transport, involving multiple routes. This saves me a lot of time when I wanna go from A to B.
Keep in mind that while sightseeing you should keep your personal belongings close. I usually wear my backpack in front of me. My phone is never in my pocket unless my hands are in there as well, and I try to make sure my wallet is in the middle of my bag so people would have to dig if they tried to pickpocket me.
Try to act like a local, like you know the city. Don't stand somewhere looking around with a confused look on your face. Go sit down and look up the route on your phone, appearing to be texting. Try to stay in the crowd, especially at night. Watch your drinks when you go clubbing or to a bar, and once again: don't follow strangers.
I know this all may seem like a lot of things to keep in mind and it seems like it will spoil the fun. But once you've become more confident in travelling you'll notice that these things come naturally. You can enjoy a trip by yourself, or with friends, as long as you're aware of the risks. Once you're sure that you've got everything under control you can have a stress-free vacation.
Do you have any travel tips? Let me know in the comments!
I know, I know, this title sounds incredibly cliché. But hear me out okay? There's a reason I'm talking about this subject of following your dreams.
The past few months I've had quite some people tell me that they find me an inspiration or that they admire me. After denying all this and being a flustered mess, I ask them why. Their reason is always the same "you do all this cool stuff and have so many projects going on".
This intrigued me, because I never feel like I'm getting much done. Heck, I have no idea what I'm doing half of the time. But it really got me thinking.. How come that there is such a difference between how I see the things I do and how others see it? I think it didn't take me long to figure out what the difference was.
People always talk about them wanting to do things in the future. "Oh, I really wanna get singing classes again" or "I would love to start my own webshop". And then they never do it. I'm impulsive. Always have been. If I want to do something, I want to do it now. It has gotten me in a lot of trouble, but it has also given me a lot of nice opportunities. And that brings me back to the title of this post: why wait? Do it now.
I wanted my own webshop, so I started that last year. It's going slow, but I enjoy it and there is progress visible. I learn from it too, and I can use that for the future.
A few months ago I said to myself that I wanted to give acting another shot. I have never really had many classes but acting is something that I enjoy, despite my anxiety. So in the past two months I've had several auditions, one role as a featured extra, and one small role in a student production. It's not much, but my goal isn't to be famous anyway. i just wanna get some acting experience, is all.
I said I wanna write a poetry book, so I've set the goal for myself to write a poetry book in 2018. I don't know if I will be able to publish it, but at least I would have written it.
Sometimes dreams seem impossible to reach because you would need certain things such as money and time. But there is always a way to make at least part of it come true. Want to run the Boston marathon but don't have enough money to fly there from where you are now? Start training. Start saving up. Don't put that on the shelf. If you really want it, work for it.
Want to become a famous painter but you don't have the time to paint that often? Put things aside to make time. Even if you spend one hour a week painting, it'll be a step forward to reaching your goal. You don't have to change your entire life around to reach your goals, as some things can be combined with your current life. But the important thing is to not dismiss things you really want.
So I guess that's what I'm doing now. I wanna make my dreams come true. I wanna have things I can work towards and things that I can just put some time and effort in. And if someone finds that inspirational then that's fine by me. But to me it's only a logical thing. I have so many things I wanna do and I don't wanna wait until it's too late. I wanna show the world what I have to offer, even if the world isn't looking in my direction. I'm doing this for me, and no one else. I hope others will do the same.
Art by Ryoko Nagara
We've all been there. You have to get up early so you go to bed in time, only to toss and turn for hours. It sucks, especially if you already got in bed later than planned. I have a chronic shortage of melatonin, which is a substance your brain makes to help you fall asleep, and despite taking melatonin pills, I still often struggle to fall asleep. And that's exactly why I came up with this post.
1. Don't force yourself.
One thing I've learned from not being able to sleep is that forcing yourself will only make it worse. If you try too hard to make yourself fall asleep, you won't be relaxed. Also if you keep thinking "I can't sleep" then you won't be able to sleep. Instead, tell yourself "It's okay that I can't sleep." because it is. If you can't sleep then the worst thing that's gonna happen is you being tired in the morning. You'll survive. Something my mother always told me is that if you just close your eyes and relax you will rest as well. That thought always makes me feel a bit better.
2. Go for a short walk.
I found that sometimes it helps if I just get up and go to the bathroom to pee, or go to the balcony to watch the stars for a few minutes. Just getting out of your bed for a short moment can help you falling asleep. Or at least it helped me.
When I can't sleep I often go read. Reading requires me to focus, and that tires me. As soon as I notice that I'm having trouble to remember what I just read, I know that it's time for me to try and sleep again. That, or when my eyes are getting heavy. If you don't like reading you can draw, or do something else that doesn't require a screen (as in phone, laptop, etc). It's best to stay away from electronic devices when you're trying to sleep.
4. Don't look at the clock.
This is a mistake I made a lot when I was younger. I would look at the clock and panic because of the time. I would be like "Oh my god, it's 2.14am, I only have five more hours to sleep!". Things like that make your stressed, and stress makes you more alert, which keeps you awake. So turn the clock away from you so you can't look at it anymore.
5. Count backwards.
This trick really helps me when there's chaos in my mind. I (mentally) start counting backwards from 100 to 0. This requires me to focus on the counting, which allows no room for any other thoughts. Eventually it'll get harder to focus on counting because you'll start to feel sleepy, but try to finish nonetheless. Although personally I quit halfway through a few times because I was so sleepy that I forgot to count. If you don't feel sleepy when you've reached 0, just start over! Or maybe start at 200, to make it extra difficult. It's like counting sheep, but easier and more effective.
That's about all the tips I've got! What do you do when you can't sleep? Let me know in the comments!
Well.. It surely has been a while, hasn't it? I don't really have an excuse for it, other than the fact that I've been quite busy. But no need to get into detail about that. I want to talk to you about getting a new routine. When the summer break ended I told myself to get a new and better routine, instead of constantly being lazy, procrastinating, eating unhealthy and getting too little or too much sleep. And I managed to do it! So now I'm going to tell you how to do the same.
1. Write down your goals
I think that this is quite important. You can't just randomly start a new routine. You need to know what you are doing it for, and what things you want included in your routine. Once you visualise it by writing it down, it will become more clear what you'll have to do. For example, I wrote: eating healthier, staying hydrated, exercise more, procrastinate less, be more positive, sleep better, and a few other things.
2. Make a slow start.
Once you've written down your goals, you should pick one or two to start with. You can't just start with all of them at once, or else you might fail at keeping up with them. So don't rush it. I started with getting more sleep by going to bed earlier and not sleeping in too much, and I started to eat healthier. Once you've got those down you can move onto the next one or two goals.
3. Keep it up.
There will be days where you won't feel like sticking to your routine, but it's important that in that moment you kick your own butt and keep going. If you do fail to keep up with your routine make sure you reflect on it. What went wrong? Why? What can you do to prevent it from happening again? For me personally it helped to start a bullet journal, in which I keep track of my goals.
4. Celebrate your success.
Sometimes you need to praise yourself a little for your hard work. So treat yourself with your favourite ice cream when you've been keeping up with your new routine for two weeks. Finally buy that dress after a month, and allow yourself to take a day off from your routine once you're certain you can pick it up again afterwards. You're allowed to be proud of yourself!
I know these steps seems simple, and maybe you're left wondering "is that it?", but you have to remember that discipline is key. You can't start a new routine if you're not willing to put effort in it. These four steps are just some things to make it a little easier. I've been working on my new routine for a month now, and I still haven't put all my goals in it. But I'm very proud of the progress I've made. So be patient, and don't give up!
Do you have a routine? Or do you want to start one? Let me know!
A few months ago I posted this article about starting an online store and my experiences with it. It was mainly about selling things through dropshipping and working with suppliers. Currently I have a store where I sell clothes, for which I use this service. But I also still have my Etsy store where I sell my handmade items. And today I want to focus on that. Because there sure are some things you should think of when selling your creations. I'll tell you exactly what you should keep in mind.
The very first thing you should do when considering to start a store is to think about what you want, and how you're gonna achieve that. What do you want to sell? What feel should your store have? How are you gonna make the things you wanna sell? It's it manageable? And the most important one: do you have the time and money for it? I see so many small shops quit because they simply don't have the time and money for it anymore.
When you've got all of that sorted out you should think of your style. You'll have to design a logo, get business cards, and stuff like that. Make sure your style is unique and easy to recognise. It's okay to change your style later on though, I've done that too. Though I would advice keeping it similar to the first design to avoid confusion.
Then you should get supplies for your crafts. I'd suggest going to Aliexpress, as they have many kinds of items there for a very low price. Once you've got your supplies you can start crafting. Make sure you put enough time and effort in it. Sure, handmade things always have a flaw or two, but the moment it's very noticeable you should ask yourself if it's okay to sell it. I always ask myself if I would buy it if I wasn't the one who made it.
In the other article (linked above) I talked about which platform to choose for your store. I think the most popular ones are Etsy, Storenvy, and Tictail. Personally I think Etsy is better for handmade things. In the other article you can see what the pros and cons are for the platforms.
It's also very important to have good pictures of your creations. Nobody will buy your things if the pictures are blurry or of low quality. People want to see what they're gonna buy, so try taking clear pictures of different angles.
Once you've got all of this sorted out it's time to open your store! And it's good to create social media accounts for your store as well. The most important ones being Instagram and Facebook. Social media is a powerful tool to get your name out there, so you should use it.
Last but not least, you should keep track of your profit. I use an excel sheet in which I calculate my income and my expenses, and also my profit. It's very handy because then you can see if you need to change things or not.
Keep in mind that it takes a while before the sales come in. In my first 3 - 4 months I had like 4 sales. It takes a lot of time to get things going, so give it that time. Eventually it'll pay off!
Do you sell handmade things? Let me know! I'd love to check it out.
No, this is not gonna be a post with cliché tips to be your best and happy self. Because quite frankly, those things don't really work. But lately I've made a few small changes in my life which really made me happier.
I've been fighting depressive feelings for a long time, and along with that came a lot of stress. But since a few months or so I've been feeling much better. I wondered why, so I made a small list of the changes that I made. I found out that they're mainly small things, so I figured it might be worth sharing.
1. Allow yourself to be sad.
I think this has been a very important change for me. I used to fight that depressive feeling, trying to force myself to be happy. Well let me tell you a secret; you can't do that. You can't force yourself to be happy. So instead you should do the opposite: allow yourself to be sad. It's totally okay to feel sad. Just know that eventually it'll pass. When I'm really down I always take a deep breath and say to myself: "You're sad right now, and that's perfectly fine. Just put on some comfy clothes, make yourself a cup of tea and go to bed early tonight. Tomorrow will be better. And if not? Then that's okay too. Because eventually it'll pass."
2. Try not to worry too much.
Now, I know this is easier said than done, but it really does help. I used to worry about everything. I was always worried about what people thought of me and my actions, I was worried about the future, about whether or not I was doing the right thing, and so on. Just stop. Take a deep breath and tell yourself that it'll be fine. Really, comforting yourself, how weird it may sound, often helps. As for worrying about the future: just do what you love. Of course, you need to keep an eye on the future, but don't let that stop you from doing what you love.
3. Look good, feel good.
Okay this subtitle does sound cliché, but it's true. I've noticed that I feel way better when I think I look good. I don't really wear make-up, but dressing nice makes me feel really happy. And if the clothes you want to wear are a little strange, or at least to society, just wear them anyway. Don't worry about what others think. If there's one thing I learned from the days on which I wore some strange clothing combinations, is that if you wear it long enough you'll stop caring.
4. Know when it's okay to force yourself and when not.
Now, while it's not good to force yourself to be happy, it sometimes is good to give yourself a little push. For example, if you've been doing nothing for days because you feel sad, it's time to kick your own butt. Go do something, even if it's going outside for one minute. Doing nothing all day will only make things worse.
But then there are also cases where it's not good to force yourself. For example, if you've been overworking yourself and you have more work to do, it's time to stop. Take a break, take good care of yourself. Make yourself a cup of tea, watch your favourite movie, read a book, listen to some good music, go out with friends, whatever you'd like to do. Allow yourself to take a break.
5. Plan ahead.
This is more like 4b, instead of 5. And I don't mean plan ahead as in "plan the rest of your life". I mean that you should plan things ahead to avoid stress. Going to an unknown place by train? Plan the journey. Look up when the train leaves and arrives, what trains you can take in case of a delay, and look for alternative routes. Also plan the journey back home. I always do this and it saves me a lot of stress. Also if you have a lot of (home)work to do, write everything down. Write down when the deadlines are, what you need to do, and how much time you think you'll need for each task. You don't have to make a day-to-day schedule, just writing things down clears up a lot.
6. Know when it's time to ask for help.
I think this one is very important. I am very well aware that if you're truly suffering from depression it will be very difficult to use these tips. But I do hope that in that case, you will use this one. If you think you're suffering from depression, ask for help. It's absolutely okay to do so. It doesn't mean you're weak, or can't fix things yourself. It means you're brave enough to realise that you need help. I always thought I would be fine going on the way I did, but at one point I realised that maybe I should go talk to a doctor or psychiatrist. I wish I had done it years ago. After a talk with the psychiatrist I was given fluoxetine, a light anti-depressant. I've been using meds for most of my life, so I didn't mind taking one more. But I know that many people are against using meds. Well let me tell you, sometimes meds can really help. And it's totally okay to use them. For me it worked really well and I'm just glad that these meds exist. There's nothing wrong with asking for help and using medication in order to feel better. All that matters is that you'll get better.
That were most of the main things I came across. I hope that this will help some people who are feeling low. Remember that many people have these problems and that they can be helped.
Anyways, I hope you all will have an amazing end of the week <3