I'm so late with this, but it's still April, so it counts! April is autism awareness month. Except us autistics are done with the awareness, and thus we call it autism acceptance month. Because it's about bloody time there is some acceptance. Anyway, in this blog I want to point out a few things neurotypical people (people without autism) can do to help us, autistic people. Because sometimes you guys try, but you're just.. not really helping at all (despite the good intentions).
Don't put us in a box
Autism has a massive stereotype that's often enlarged in the media. When people think about autism they think about these weird unsocial people who don't speak much, don't like to be touched, are obsessed with trains and never grow up. While I do refuse to grow up, I'm nothing like the stereotype. I'm social! I speak a lot (sometimes too much)! I like hugs and I don't like trains (though I do have other special interests, more about that later). Autistic people are so incredibly diverse! In fact, none of us are the same. Seriously, I have two autistic siblings and a bunch of autistic friends and we're all so different. So please, for the love of all that is holy, don't put us in a box. Do something bold like, I don't know, get to know us. Like you would do with any other person.
Don't make decisions for us but ask us what we need
You know, I really appreciate all the good intentions people have sometimes. But when we're going on an excursion and you tell me you've made a day planning for me because "autistic people like to know what's gonna happen in advance", then that really tells me what you don't know me all that well. It's a waste of your time and brings me an awkward conversation. It's kind of like going to a bar with a Russian girl and ordering her a glass of vodka because Russians like vodka. It's just a stereotypical assumption.
While some autistics would love a day planning, I personally am not a fan. So what can you do to help me? To help us? Well.. how about you ask us what we need? Again, get to know us. We will gladly tell you how you can help make the world a little bit easier for us. For example, my friends know me well enough to know I don't like crowded places. So when they go ahead and take me to a quiet restaurant, I don't mind them having made that decision for me. It shows they care about me and know what I need (or don't need). Another example was the fact that my employers decided to give me a work space of my own. They did made the decision for me, but they did so because they know it's what I need. Because they have asked me before.
Give us the time and space we need
For autistic people, the world can be very overwhelming as well as tiring. And sometimes we just need to be completely alone to recharge. It's not that we don't like hanging out with you, it's that we love hanging out with you and in order to continue to do so in the future, we need to be alone. It's nothing personal.
I've had people call me a buzzkill for leaving a party early, or boring for not going clubbing. It hurts, because I don't want to miss out on the fun, but I have to. I have to take care of myself first. Luckily I now have a lovely group of friends who understand that I will usually leave a party after three hours. They understand that I may say I'm staying for dinner, but later change my mind because I'm tired. Don't force us to cross our boundaries. Being social is very tiring for us and it's even worse when we're forced to do things we can't handle.
Allow us to be ourselves
Autistic people are often considered weird. Well, maybe we are. But maybe we're just different. I've had people try and push me into something I'm not. Telling me not to do things or to do things differently. It doesn't work. We have our own methods, methods that make sense to us. When you try and change that up, it greatly distresses us. So yes, I know that the way I'm solving a problem is with a huge ass detour, but it's a detour that makes sense to me.
Also, please let us do whatever we need to calm ourselves down. The thing I'm referring to is stimming. Stimming means self-stimulatory behaviour. This is often a repetitive movement or noise or anything that we're doing or are occupied with, often to cope with an overwhelming feeling or a need to stay calm. For example, I bounce my leg, rub my nails against my lips, flap my hands and rub my hands against smooth surfaces. I also hum in a consistent tone when I'm really overwhelmed. Some people like to listen to certain sounds or look at something that's moving or glittering. I've had people tell me to stop stimming because it was annoying, resulting in me doing other things to stop feeling overwhelmed. Harmful things such as picking skin until it bleeds and biting my hand. Never interrupt an autistic person from stimming. More on this subject is explained perfectly in this short video.
Lastly on this subject, please allow us to talk about the things we're passionate about. Small talk is incredibly difficult for us, and we tend to find socialising a lot easier when we can talk about our (special) interests. I know this can sometimes not be interesting at all, but it shows we're attempting to engage with you. If the subject we're talking about doesn't interest you, try finding common ground. But for the love of god please stop talking about the weather. It's shit, we know.
Don't praise us for doing simple things
Okay, this may sound vague, but I can clear this up for you real quick and easy. Imagine being me (scary, I know). Imagine having been independent for about 4 years, meaning living on your own. Then imagine someone saying to you "Wow, it's so cool that you manage to live on your own without any help."
Feels odd, right? Well, I've had it happen to me. Sure, not every autistic person is able to live independently (and that's totally fine!), but we're not toddlers. We can do things. Things neurotypical people do too. Sure, they're a little harder for us sometimes, but that doesn't mean we want a medal for it. I don't need a medal just for existing and living my life. I don't want you to praise me for doing things just because I'm autistic. I want you to see my accomplishments and praise me like you would praise someone without autism. Of course I don't speak for everyone on the spectrum, but most people I know feel this way. Bottom line is: if you wouldn't praise a neurotypical person for it, don't praise an autistic person for it.
Autistic person vs person with autism
At some point somewhere on this planet, someone who's not autistic, said "hey, we need to separate the autism from the person!" and thus said that saying "autistic person" is bad. Why is it bad, you ask? Because people view autism as a bad thing. Because you wouldn't say "cancerous person", but "person with cancer", so it works the same for autism, right?
Wrong. Autism is not a bad thing. In fact, it's woven into our personalities. You can't separate me from my autism. Most autistic people prefer "autistic", but not all. So always be sure to ask. But when in doubt, go for "autistic".
And for the love of god please stop supporting Autism Speaks
Lastly, before this is getting waaay too long.. Please stop supporting Autism Speaks. They have done nothing but harming autistic people, yet they are the biggest autism charity there is. they call people with autism a burden to their families, people who use too much of the tax money, a disease.. With a quick google you can find out all about their harmful antics. Don't use the puzzle piece they use to represent autism, because the idea behind it is that we're missing a piece. We're not missing a piece, we're a complete person. Also, don't "light it up blue", for it is an Autism Speaks campaign. Use #RedInstead.
And now I'm done talking. For now. Time for me to vanish and write another blog post in a month or so (yes, this is a self-call out).
Recently I came across an interesting article about “stan culture”, which I highly recommend reading. It sparked something in my mind that I had been thinking about for a long time and wanted to speak up about: young people on social media. Don’t worry, I’m not going to be all like “ugh this new generation is horrible”. It’s gonna be quite the opposite, actually. I want to talk about how I am concerned for those people, because not long ago, I was one of them. If you are a “youngster” on the internet, this article is also for you. I don’t want to talk about you, I want to talk to you. I want you to learn from my mistakes. I hope you will listen.
But first, what exactly is “stan culture”? Stan culture consists of self-proclaimed “stans”, which are basically fans, often related to pop culture and music artists. At 22, I am still part of stan culture, but over the years I noticed some major issues arising. Like the aforementioned article said, stan culture can be very toxic. People get bullied, harassed and sometimes even threatened if they even dare to speak badly of the thing or person someone “stans”. But you can read all about that in the other article, because I want to speak up about what I learned from being a part of stan culture.
Don’t get me wrong, being in fandoms has quite literally saved my life. I’ve formed many online friendships over the course of eight years, of which quite a lot resulted in me meeting those friends in real life. Being a stan of something makes me feel like I belong somewhere, especially if I am surrounded by other stans. It gives you a sense of power. And that can be dangerous. Though I can proudly say that I never harassed anyone who spoke against the things I like, I did witness some of my fellow stans do so. I never called them out for it, and that was my mistake.
Let’s fast-forward to the here and now. I think the biggest group of stans is on twitter, and they’re often under 18 years of age. Like I said, I am now 22, so that’s not too far off from 18. But I’ve had plenty of time to reflect upon my teenage years, and what I came to realise is what concerned me. It’s what I see with these young stans too.
What I see is young people being naive. And no, that’s not meant as an insult, because I was (and sometimes still am) naive too. Most young people are, it comes with the age. I’m just hoping I can make them aware of it. Another thing I see is young people not realising that their actions have consequences. They don’t realise when they are doing damage in any way. And the third thing I see, and which especially applied to myself when I was around 15/16, is the over-idolisation of people. It’s very easy to ignore the bad stuff your idol is doing when you’re obsessed with them.
So I have a message for all the young stans out there. Please think for yourself. Don’t follow groups. Question everything. If someone in your stan group says a certain thing or person is bad, ask them why. Do your digging. See if it’s true. And if it is true, handle it responsibly. Don’t go looking for a fight. Don’t provoke anything. Don’t spew hate, that includes anon hate. You can spend your time so much better. Be the better person. But also be wary. Don’t let people use your good nature against you. There are bad people in the world, and if something is too good to be true, then it’s likely that it’s not true. Be careful with your personal details. Be careful with your money. Don’t let people manipulate you into doing things you don’t actually want to do. No always means no. Please remember that.
You’re all lovely and wonderful people and your teenage years are an important part of your life. They help you grow into the adult you’ll be later on. And I hope that adult will be strong and compassionate. I hope they will see the world with their own eyes. Not those of others.
I've been watching youtubers for a few years now. Not as much as I used to, but I still spend a couple hours a week on youtube watching people talk to their cameras. Occasionally I vlog too (although i haven't uploaded anything in a long time) but I enjoy watching vloggers more than being one myself. I watch a lot of bigger youtubers, such as DanIsNotOnFire and AmazingPhil, but I also watch a bunch of smaller ones, and I want to share those with you.
I haven't known McKenna for long, but I am absolutely in love with her. She's super kind, pretty, funny, stylish, and like me she loves anime and is aro ace. I just really enjoy watching her videos. If you like decor, fashion, make-up, anime, and casual chat, make sure to check her out here!
This youtuber named Dodie is a girl from the UK, who is super cute and has a beautiful singing voice! I love the songs and covers she makes, and I love watching her other videos too. Whether she makes a solo video or collaborates with her friends (who are also youtubers I adore), everything she creates just makes me happy. Be sure to check her out here and support her music!
Luke is one of those friends I mentioned in Dodie's part, but he definitely deserves to be on this list (the whole friend group does, but I like short lists). I honestly don't get why he doesn't have more subscribers. His videos are often quite strange, but they never fail to make me laugh. The way Luke acts is what I act like when I'm alone, so it's pretty relatable. You really should check him out here!
4. Bry and Candice
More friends of Dodie and Luke, but the reason I wanted to mention them here too is because they deserve more subscribers. I met these two when they were engaged (they're married now) and were visiting Amsterdam. I actually called in fake sick to work so I could travel 2.5 hours to Amsterdam to meet them. They were super kind (also I rescued Bry from a park bench he was stuck to), and they are so talented. Bry went on tour with Twenty One Pilots and I am still so bummed that I couldn't go because I love both artists so much. I love his songs, and Candice is such a sweet person. Together they're just the cutests and I love watching their videos. Check them out here!
This girl is honestly so lovely. She's pretty as fuck, kind, stylish, funny, and so much more. I really enjoy watching her videos and swooning over her fashion and make-up (also her hair is amazing). I would love to just meet her one day and have a cup of tea with her (or coffee, if she prefers that). She definitely deserves more subscribers! Go check her out here!
This girl makes the prettiest travel vlogs. Watching them make me wanna pack my things and leave for a trip around the world. She's honestly so talented when it comes to filming, editing, picking music, and just making travel vlogs in general. They're super nice watch, and she deserves a lot more subscribers, so go check her out here!
What are your favourite youtubers? Let me know in the comments!
Sometimes when I talk to friends we get to the topic of religion and our beliefs. During those conversations I always get reminded that what I believe in isn't that common, and it doesn't really have a name. But that inspired me to make this blog post, because maybe there are people out there with the same beliefs! So let's get started.
I was raised a Christian by my mother. She's a Christian, my grandparents are, and my dad was raised one too. I grew up in a very religious town, and I went to a Christian primary school. But I noticed that I never really believed in any of the things I was taught. It was just hard for me to think of those things as the truth. Luckily as I grew older I was allowed more freedom in regards of religion. I didn't have to go to church anymore and my mom had stopped reading from the bible after dinner. She accepted that it probably wasn't my religion, and she let me free to discover what suited me. I never really thought about what I believe in until about two years ago, when I realised that my problem is that I don't believe in the presence of a god, but I do believe there is something out there. I did research on many religions, and I found that Buddhism suited my beliefs, except for the fact that there is a god. So my search continued.
After a while I discovered pantheism, which basically means that everything is god. Now that I didn't believe in, but I did believe the second definition of pantheism, which is that the universe is god. Not like a literal god, but it is the higher authority out there. Pantheism really seemed to suit me, except for the single fact that they don't believe in the supernatural. So I was back to square one. I personally think that pantheism suits me the most, but I just give it my own personal twist.
My views on...
To me the universe is my god. Though I don't view it as a god. It's more like a higher being. I don't pray to the universe, but I do sometimes talk to it like you would to a god. Other than that I honour the earth. If you want to compare it to Christianity the universe is God and the earth is Jesus.
I believe that when you die your soul returns to either the earth or the universe. I guess it just depends on where your soul would feel more at home. I do believe in ghosts, but in my opinion ghosts are either souls that refuse to let go of the human life, or they are souls that occasionally go back to earth to check on things. I believe that once a soul returns to the earth or the universe it won't be trapped there. It can still come back, but it can't really do anything here. I suppose that evil spirits are the former case, and good-natured spirits are the latter.
Pantheism is a religion that goes very well with science. Which is also why it doesn't get along with the supernatural. In my opinion most things can be explained with science. I do believe in a lot of scientific things, though I believe there are also some things that cannot be explained. I also believe that science is a good thing, but that we should be careful when it comes to messing with nature (such as genes).
I believe there are things that cannot be explained. I do believe in ghosts, and I think there might be a possibility fairies exist, but there are also supernatural things I do not believe in, such as vampires and werewolves (though I do find them awesome). In my opinion angels are simply very kind ghosts, and demons are evil ghosts. Though I'm also not sure about their existence either. I believe in a lot of things unless there is enough proof that it doesn't exist. I'm very open minded, but I'm also down to earth enough to acknowledge that some things just are impossible.
I think I've created my own version of karma. I believe that everything you do will influence your life. If you are mean to everyone bad things will happen to you. If you are kind good things will happen to you. But I also believe there should be a balance. When something good happens to me I know I will have to pay for it later. The universe gives and takes, so if something good happens, something bad will happen too eventually. But that also works the other way around, which keeps me positive during rough times. Sometimes when I really want something to happen I just ask the universe for a favour. Often I get my wish granted, but when I don't I try to respect the universe decision, knowing that it was either for the best or to make up for the good things that happened before. This doesn't mean that I think that everything that happens is the universe's decision. For example if a family member gets cancer I know that it's not the universe's doing. It's just something that unfortunately happens to some people.
How to treat life on earth:
In my opinion everything on this earth deserves to be here. Because I honour the earth I try to respect it as much as possible. I try not to hurt any flora and it saddens me to see nature being destroyed. I often take a moment to appreciate the earth and I realise how lucky I am to be alive. Sometimes when I'm a little down that's hard to do, but then I just go out for a walk in the park or the woods to get close to nature again, which really helps.
Animals deserve to be here too, but I'm not a vegetarian/vegan. I do think I should be, but at the moment it's very hard to do so as my flatmates cook for me too. But at the same time I don't feel too guilty about it, as we have sort of evolved this way, if that makes sense. In human history we have always been eating meat, and since the universe didn't stop that I don't believe it would mind if I eat meat. As long as I treat the animals I directly have contact with the right way it's alright. The universe lets us free to live our life the way we want to, though it would appreciate it if we treated the earth with care. I guess I try to make up for eating meat by treating nature with care and respect, as that is something not everyone does. (The twig in the picture above was already on the ground, I did not break it from the bush.)
How to treat each other:
I strongly believe that we should treat each other with kindness and respect. We all deserve to be here on this earth, and if the universe lets us free to live our life the way we want, we should do that to others too. I try very hard not to speak ill of others. And when I do I never do it directly to someone's face unless they ask me to do so. This doesn't mean that if I don't like someone I pretend I do. I just leave them be and try not to pay too much attention to them. I also try not to respond to negativity. If someone insults me I ignore it instead of insulting them too. I think that if you do respond with the same negativity you'll only feel worse. On top of that, you'll confirm the other's negativity, which also isn't good. I always try to respect people with other beliefs and opinions than me, unless their opinion is harmful to someone else (for example, homophobia). My best friend is a Christian, and my other friend is Muslim, and I actually am very interested in the way they view things. I respect their religions and I always try to understand the way they view things. In my opinion you don't need to understand or agree with someone else or what they say or do to just respect them as a human being. If you don't agree with them, either tell them politely so or just leave it be. But don't bash someone for it.
I think that is pretty much all I believe in. I tried to explain it the best I could, but some things are just things I feel and cannot explain very well.
What kind of things do you believe in? Let me know in the comments!
I think I started communicating with people outside of the Netherlands when I was about 14. I met a group of people who loved the same tv show as me. They were all from the USA and it was nice having people to talk to who had the same interests. Ever since I've gotten many more friends from all over the world. In my opinion it is one of the best things that happened to me. And I would like to tell you why everyone should find an international friend.
Your English will improve.
I met most of my international friends on twitter, and since they did not speak Dutch, I would have to speak English. By talking to them daily my English improved rapidly. I learned so much more online than I did at school. I learned so many new words and phrases. And because I was (and still am) mainly on twitter I would have to shorten my messages, which taught me to play with words and shorten them. Now I have friends from all over the world. Not only the UK and the USA, but also Sweden, France, Germany, Poland, Bulgaria, Denmark. China, Japan, Australia, and many more countries. English makes it possible to communicate with all those people, and I think that's pretty special.
Your view of the world will change.
Because I've met so many people from different countries my view of certain topics in the world really changed. I've become quite open minded and way more understanding about certain things. I realised that living here isn't always that bad and that I'm quite lucky with the freedom I have here. But I also realised that some things are way better in other countries and that my country should really work on that. I've also learned a lot about racism and how it affects certain people.
You'll learn many things.
I've learned so much about other cultures and I've also learned a few words in foreign languages. I love learning about other cultures and religions and talking to people all around the world helps me to do that. It also made me respect other cultures a lot more.
And of course you'll have a place to stay in other countries.
This is also worth mentioning, because now that I know so many people from different countries I always have a place to stay if I were to visit that country. And even if I don't stay there, if I do visit the country I can ask for advice and tips about what to do and where to go. So far I've only stayed with someone once, which were two lovely girls from the UK. But I'm going to Stockholm this summer and my Swedish friend offered to help me sort things out, which is very nice.
Conclusion: having an international friend is loads of fun, and in my personal experience it truly improved my life. If you want to find yourself an international friend I suggest signing up for InterPals. I signed up about a week ago to see what it was like, and I already met many interesting people!
Do you have an international friend? Let me know!
Hello again! A while back I came across this blogpost, called "The life improvement tag", of a Dutch blog. Now, I know not everyone here understands Dutch, so let me explain what it is about. It's basically a list of questions about your goals and dreams and what you do to achieve those. And I thought it'd be fun to answer those questions! (In English, of course). So without further ado, here's The life improvement tag!
1. What is your biggest dream; what do you want to accomplish in life?
I think that would be happiness. And that doesn't mean I'm not happy right now, but I would like to be happy throughout my entire life. I don't want to be 80 and look back at my life and wonder where it went wrong. I want to be 80 and be grateful for the wonderful life I have lived.
2. In what way are you working on making this dream come true?
By just doing what I love and staying true to myself. I know from experience that being someone you're not and doing stuff you don't want to do makes you really unhappy. So that's why every day I'm working on just being me, even though I'm not always sure who exactly I am. But I know that as long as I continue being myself and doing what I love, I will be happy.
3. What is the most important goal you want to achieve this year?
That's a tough one.. But I think it would be something along the lines of having learned new things. I like learning things and I think that if by the end of the year I have learned a couple of new things I will be proud of myself. Whether that is a few words in another language or an improvement of my current skills, I would love to learn it all.
4. What is your #1 tip for accomplishing your goals?
Probably to just believe in yourself, and to not give up too easily. Always give your goal a second chance. You are the only one who can stop yourself from accomplishing your goal. If you really want it, fight for it. If you don't feel like fighting for it then it's probably not important enough to you and you should find a new goal.
5. How do you make a day plan/to-do list?
I usually don't, actually. I like keeping my planning in my head. Though, when there are too many things to do I write them down, but I don't add times to it. The times are also in my head. I don't know, I just don't like being tied to a planning.
6. What do you do in a busy period?
I just write down everything I have to do and arrange the tasks by their deadlines. Then all I have to is work down the list. Other than that I just try not to force myself too much to do things. Because I know that forcing myself only gives me more stress. Usually I work better when the deadline is nearing because the pressure then motivates me to actually do something,
7. What is your #1 planning tip?
I guess it's just do find a way of planning you are comfortable with. There are so many techniques out there, but those never work for everybody. For me it works to work with deadlines, even when something doesn't have an official deadline. And I try to avoid a strict planning, it only stresses me out. But once again, you should just try different things and find out what works for you.
8. What is your morning ritual?
Uhh.. it's mostly laying in bed for as long as possible. I'm very lazy and I love my bed very much. After I finally got up I eat something and watch tv, and then I go do whatever I'm supposed to do that day. Pretty boring, eh?
9. What gives you energy?
(Consuming the soul of another human being.) Being creative gives me the most energy. Like I said before, doing what I love makes me happy, and when I'm happy I'm energised. So when I feel down I don't force myself in doing chores or homework, but I go do something that makes me happy.
10. What do you do when you have a mental breakdown?
I guess I just accidentally answered that question the in answer above.. But yeah, I try to take good care of myself when that happens. I don't try to suppress any emotions, which means I'll cry if I feel like it. I also go out and buy myself all the food I want, no matter how unhealthy. I wear something comfy, watch my favourite shows, and I try to avoid everything that I don't feel like doing. Usually it really helps. So my tip is to just take good care of yourself.
11. Which book inspired you or motivated you? Why?
I think that would be the book "Animals in translation" by Temple Grandin. The writer is autistic like me, and she described how her autism helped solving problems that involved animals. According to her autistic people sometimes find it easier to understand and bond with animals because they think a bit like them. When I read the book I just was amazed by the amount of things I could relate to. And it inspired me to not let my autism stop me from doing what I want.
12. Which move, tv series, or documentary inspired or motivated you? Why?
Recently I watched a documentary called "The Sunny side of spirit", in which a Dutch women (Sunny Bergman) went to different countries to see how they treat mental illnesses there. It really inspired me because it's so different from the Western culture. It really made me think about how we treat such things here and whether or not that is the good way to treat them. It sort of opened my mind.
13. Which blog inspires or motivates you the most? Why?
In all honesty, I don't think I can just name one blog. But I do get inspired by blogs who post their own content, and not because everyone is doing it. I like blogs who are unique and do post what they like. I just admire that.
If you want to do this tag feel free to do it! Just make sure to mention Streets Ahead!
You know those days where you're on youtube, watching a cat video, and then another one, and another one, and another one? I have that too, except I google models. I don't know why, but I just like looking at them. I actually made a list with models that I think are absolutely gorgeous.
I don't think I ever want to be a model. I just don't like the industry, and the way they only portray a certain look. Yet I like looking at them. Especially the ones that are a little different. I don't think I can explain why I like it, but what I can do is show you some models that I adore. So let's do that.
1. Fernanda Hin Lin Ly
I absolutely adore this model's look. I love her pink hair and her fashion style. She's 19, just like me, and she's from Australia. You can follow her on instagram @warukatta.
2. Julia Johansen
I love red hair. I mean, I dyed my own hair red as well. My mother has beautiful red hair, and secretly I wish I would've inherited as well, but I got my father's dark blonde hair instead. Anyways, Julia is 21 and from Finland. In my opinion she's really pretty and I believe she's done quite some shoots and shows.
3. Winnie Harlow
I think some of you may have heard of her. The Canadian 21-year-old Winnie Harlow has a skin condition, but that didn't stop her from becoming a model. I honestly think she's stunning and she's absolutely unique. I think she proves that you don't have to be perfect to be successful. Although in my eyes she's beyond perfect.
4. Emily Ruhl
I really like this girl's look. Apart from red hair I also love very very very light blonde hair. I actually used to have that hair colour when I was a toddler, but it got darker as I got older. Emily is from the USA and I believe she's either 19 or 20, but I'm not entirely sure. But she's on her way to the top and has already done quite a few shoots and shows. You can find her on instagram @emily_ruhl
5. Chloe Norgaard
This girl is quickly making her way up to the top. Lately I actually saw her on a poster from Pieces and I kinda freaked out a little because I've known about her for over a year and seeing her on a poster like that made me happy. She's from the USA and I believe she's 24, or maybe 25, I'm not sure. But she's good at what she does. I love her hair, which is like a piece of art. And I love how the modelling business accepts and likes it as well. You can find her on instagram a well @chloenorgaard
Do you have a favourite model? Or maybe a favourite actress or actor? Let me know in the comments!
I remember the day I discovered Etsy. I spent hours searching for everything that I was looking for and more. Back then I was in a lot of fandoms, so I searched for fandom related items. I loved the fact that all of it was handmade, and that it was more personal. It encouraged me to open my own Etsy store: Curious Crescent.
Now, about 4 years later, I still browse Etsy daily. And today I want to share some of the amazing stores I came across.
Croochet sells handmade crocheted keychains and plushies. I really love how cute they are, and altough I haven't purchased one yet, I'd love to get a Croochet plushie of my own some day
2. Mandie Kuo
Mandie Kuo sells mostly stationary, such as stickers, cards, and washi tape. But she also has tote bags, keychains, and more! I absolutely love her illustrations, and I'm actually planning on buying from her very soon! You should definitely check it out.
3. My Mini Munchies
My Mini Munchies sells the cutest polymerclay jewellery. They're incredibly sweet and look very professional. Personally I'd love to work with polymerclay, but I'm just not very good at the very detailed work. So I greatly admire this store!
WhiteStag sells very unique art prints. I absolutely love this seller's style and there are so many prints that I hope to own one day. You really should give this store a look.
EmSeeItch sells really awesome stationary, phone cases, pillows, mugs, and other items. I adore the look and feel the items have, and I love the style. I've currently got my eye on one of their mugs. Check them out!
BookSphere sells cute gifts that you can give to your loved ones (or to yourself, of course). Their jewellery comes with a card with a cute quote, and great design. There are love themed cards, cards for your mother, sister, bff, cards for a birthday, and many more. I know where I am going to get my birthday presents from now on. Maybe I might even surprise myself with a lovely gift.
Now, Mondoinundito is something different. I think she takes polymer crafts to a whole new level. Her creations are simply stunning. I adore every piece she's made. Her store seems kind of empty at the moment, but that's because she usually makes batches. So I'm sure the next batch is on the way. Check her out!
Momomints is run by two creative ladies, who create the cutest things such as tiny crocheted plushies, buttons, and phone accessories. It's simply adorable and I kinda just want to buy it all. Definitely worth checking out!
I really like the art style the owner of lOll3SHOP has. It's really unique and has this cute & creepy feel I love. I like it when artists have a style that is 100% theirs. I could recognise her works really easily. On Etsy she sells stickers, prints, brooches, and other items. Go take a look!
10. Zombie Unicorn Jewellery
This shop named ZombieUnicornJewellery sells cute polymerclay jewellery, which makes my heart very happy. I love pastel colours, and going through their store gets me very tempted to just.. buy everything. Check it out!
11. Jilly Jilly Design
I seriously love the designs JillyJillyDesign makes. It's super cute and in my beloved pastel colours. They sell notebooks, buttons, mugs, mirrors, earrings, and more. I've got my eye on a few of their items. Hopefully they'll be mine soon. Give them a look!
12. Under The Ivy
I love fairies, elves, and mythical beings. So Under The Ivy's creations make me very happy. Their jewellery is absolutely stunning and actually quite affordable. I've seen similar items being sold for double the price, so I would love to buy from them as soon as I have some spare money. I would wear their lovely jewellery with pride. Definitely worth checking out!
Honestly, there are so many more shops I want to show to you, but I don't want to make the list, you know, infinite. So I think the best way to find them is to just explore Etsy, and hopefully find those treasures that are waiting for you to find them. Because Etsy truly is a great place to find one of a kind items, and I'm sure I'll enjoy it for many more years.
A few days ago I was casually lurking on twitter, when something caught my eye. It was a tweet about how you should try to be different from others, instead of being mainstream. Now, I do agree with the fact that you should be yourself no matter what, but what if being yourself means being mainstream? So that's why I decided to write this post.
In the past couple of years we've seen phrases like "Dare to be different" and "Be original, don't die a copy", and being different is being highly encouraged. Nothing is wrong with that at all. I like people who are a little different. But I also know that people are being made fun of for liking things that are trending. And that right there is not okay.
I think an excellent example is me buying a Mason jar two weeks ago. I showed it to someone and they said "You too? Everyone has those. It's not so special anymore." Well first of all, I'm not buying something because it's special. I buy something because I like it. Second, so what if everyone has them? They're not being mass-produced just for 5 people to own them. Why is everyone obsessed with being original? If you like something, buy it. It doesn't matter if it's something everyone owns or wears. It doesn't matter if people find it plain or boring. If you like it, get it.
Another example is people saying something you do or make isn't original. Now, I do not support people who steal other people's works or ideas, but it's impossible to make something that doesn't at least have one similarity with someone else's work. If lineart is popular right now, and you want to do lineart too, go for it! It doesn't matter if everyone is doing it. If you like it, go for it. It's really that simple.
I also feel like a lot of people try too hard to stand out. It's okay if your clothing style is strange, but only wear those clothes because you like them and because you want to. Not because you want to stand out.
I think that the hardest thing is to be yourself. Personally, it took me a long time to figure out who I am and what I want. But I did know that I wasn't "mainstream". But sometimes I do, buy, and like "mainstream" things, and that's okay. So if you like everything that's popular and trending, then there's no shame in that. It's great to praise those who are different, but it's not good to do so by insulting those who are normal. After all, what even is normal? I don't think there is a good definition for that. As long as you are yourself it's all good. Just keep that in mind.
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